Do you feel numb sometimes?

Do you feel numb sometimes? Like your world is a little foggy? Like you’d wish to see more clearly, but it’s just too scary, to feel and see. What if you’d face something overwhelming? If you lose control? You better don’t want to risk that…

Sometimes you have a feeling, that you should feel something, but then you don’t have any access. You have great achievements, but anybody else is happier than you are. You experience a loss, but you can’t cry, instead you roleplay to be so strong and stable, which leads to getting even more distant from yourself.

There is a yearning inside of you, to come in contact with the present moment, your feelings… with other people… and with life itself. Even in that foggy state, you might guess, that this can’t be everything, that there is more to experience in that one precious life.

 Many people, many athletes are feeling like that. And some are not even noticing it. Continuing year by year, seeing time, moments and people rushing by without really noticing anything. So, by reading this, you’re already a step ahead.

 The first thing to understand about it is, that it’s not completely wrong to suppress, avoid and deny things. In this world there happens a lot of cruelty and injustice every single moment, death is real and if you would soak in everything, you couldn’t even live a normal life, because you constantly would alternating be angry or crying. But the dose makes the poison.

You mastered this protection strategy so well, that you use it for everything now. So, it’s not so much about learning something new, but about unlearning something that became a habit.

Most of the subconscious protection strategies we learn during childhood because at the age of 4 they made sense. As children we don’t have a lot of power, so we learn to adapt to (or to fight against) the people that raise us, peers, society, the world, etc.…

The thing is, that we not just learning about the external world, but also about what to think about ourselves.

By how we get treated we assume some deep inner beliefs about ourselves and take them as truth. Those can be positive, like “I’m welcome”, “I’m cared for” but everybody has also negative belief, such as “I’m not enough”, “I’m always falling short” and so on, I guess you know, what I’m speaking about.

The problem is, that we take those beliefs into adulthood, we still believe them somehow. And because it’s painful to feel those beliefs and at all costs, we don’t want to show people around us, that we “are not enough”, we sometimes prefer to suppress, deny, camouflage, play roles or lie.

 What your adult self has to understand is, that you always have been valuable, doesn’t matter how you have been treated or what you experienced, that there is a bunch of good arguments that those believes are bullshit and you have way more resources to handle life now when you are an adult than when you have been a child. Those beliefs are no longer up to date.

Another key is acceptance and welcoming the child you once have been, the more it feels cared for and safe, the less it wants to protect you with getting numb, deny and suppress.

 This takes courage and will make you vulnerable … and beautiful, profoundly strong and genuinely real.

 I do work with athletes on these topics because it can bring such a change in the quality of life, stability of performance and relationships.

 If you are interested, don’t hesitate to schedule your free call now.

Love and Light,

Berit